I can only imagine what you might be thinking or feeling after all this talk about fear and safety, peace and love.
It might feel like your world has been turned upside down- like everything suddenly looks and feels different.

It  might feel strange and uncomfortable.  I get it.

And yet… isn’t it kind of exciting to think there might be another way?
A new way to live our lives.
To deal with anger and hate.
To cope with fear - without falling into the same patterns we’ve always used.

And here’s the surprising part:
The only thing standing between us and a life that feels more peaceful, more connected, more loving… is fear.

Not just fear itself, but how we react when we’re afraid.

All the anger, judgment, blame, and shame we feel and act on when fear takes over—
That’s the darkness.

But if we start to see that darkness as fear in disguise, something shifts.
We get a little space.
A little room to breathe.

So what might that actually look like?

Let’s say someone forgets your birthday, or leaves you off an invitation list.

You feel hurt. You feel angry.

You start thinking things like, “They don’t care about me,” “I don’t matter,” or even, “There’s something wrong with them. They are bad or wrong.”

And if you're like me, those thoughts can spiral fast.

But now imagine pausing and realizing - wait, these strong feelings?

They’re just the result of fear.

Fear of being left out. Fear of being unimportant. Fear of being rejected.

When you can see that fear is at the bottom of it, even just for a second, something softens.

You no longer have to lash out.

You no longer feel the need to beat yourself up or turn cold or snappy.

You have some space to breathe.

And that’s what this shift gives us.

A little perspective.

A way off the emotional roller coaster.

A chance to stop being ruled by negativity and fear and start choosing how we want to respond.

That doesn’t mean we won’t still feel things. We will.

But we might not feel so hijacked by them.

We might have space for something else - something lighter, more peaceful, more grounded.

And over time, that space grows.

That’s where the light comes in.